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Teaneck Child Counseling

Children’s Counseling in Bergen County

Teaneck child counseling

Teaneck child counseling

Is your child struggling with issues like behavioral problems? Is your child struggling socially, or with issues of self-esteem? Does your child exhibit symptoms of depression or poor coping or adjustment skills? If you are trying to work through issues like these with your child, know that you are not alone. Many children struggle with these kinds of problems but do not receive the proper help that they need. Here at Mars & Venus, we offer Teaneck child counseling services that can give your child that help so that they can live a happier and more productive life. Our experts in Teaneck child counseling get to know each child on an individual level so that we can provide treatment that is tailored to them and their individual needs. We know that every child is different and that there is no one type of counseling that will work for every child or adolescent. We consider our Teaneck child counseling to be highly specialized, as well as equal parts compassionate and professional. The experts here at Mars & Venus are dedicated to making real, tangible changes in your child’s life so that they can move on toward a more positive mindset as they grow older and become more independent. We want to give them the best start to their lies that they can have and that they deserve to enjoy. Letting problems fester will only make the process of growing up more difficult for your child. With Teaneck child counseling, we get those problems out in the open and work to resolve them in healthy, productive ways.

If you would like to learn more about what our Teaneck child counseling services entail, or if you would like to read up on our individual counseling, family counseling, couples counseling, long distance counseling, and more, the main Mars & Venus website contains a wealth of additional information that you may find useful. If you have any specific questions or concerns that we can clear up for you or address in further depth, please feel free to contact the staff here at Mars & Venus directly. You can reach us either by phone or online.

161 N. Franklin Turnpike, Suite 105
Ramsey, New Jersey 07446
(201) 467-4173

Child Counseling in Ramsey NJ

Child Counselor

There may have never been more challenging times to be a parent, or to be a child, than at this point in history. Children are confronted with a tremendous amount of stress, pressure, and conflicts. Bombarded as they are by a constant stream of information from TV, radio, social media, the internet, classmates, friends, teachers, relatives, and other sources, it’s no wonder that there is a distinct need for our child counseling in Ramsey NJ. At Mars & Venus, we’re about much more than counseling couples and dealing with the differences between the sexes. Although we’re proud to use the timeless and proven wisdom of Dr. John Grey’s groundbreaking book, “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus” as our foundation, we’re most certainly uniquely skilled, experienced, and qualified to help your child (and you).

Child Counseling in Ramsey NJ

Child Counseling in Ramsey NJ

You can feel completely confident and assured that our child counseling in Ramsey NJ is being done by a highly trained professional who specializes in addressing and treating the very types of problems that your child is facing right now. We’re positive that your child will feel comfortable and at-home, essential components for a productive relationship between therapist and patient. Furthermore, we understand that your time is valuable and that your schedule is a busy one. That’s why we offer daytime, evening, and weekend hours so that regardless of when you’re available, we can accommodate you.

Our child counseling in Ramsey NJ will focus on determining the unique difficulties that your child is facing and helping him or her to deal with them. In conjunction with you, it is our goal to get to the root of the problems and implement a therapeutic solution to them. There is simply no reason that you should feel helpless when we are here to be work with you both and bring about improvements. Start by calling us and arranging a consultation where we can meet with her or him and also with you.

161 N. Franklin Turnpike, Suite 105
Ramsey, New Jersey 07446
(201) 467-4173

Fighting and Conflict in Front of the Kids – Bergen County

Fighting and Conflict in Front of the Kids

Kids model themselves after the important adults in their lives, their parents. They learn to imitate adult behavior, model what it means to be a man or a woman, and learn about relationships between men and women. When parents respect and value each other, their children learn about equality in relationships.

There is no such thing as a conflict-free marriage. Parents will argue and disagree, but when parents often argue heatedly and are disrespectful to each other, they teach their children undesirable lessons. Angry voices, negative facial expressions, constant yelling, and hurtfulness toward one another teach kids how to be hostile.

Sometimes unavoidable arguments will be displayed in front of the kids. It is useful for kids to observe adults engage in respectful disagreements. They can then see how individuals resolve their arguments and that all is not lost. It reassures them that even if there is distance, relationships can remain whole.

Knowing how to fight effectively is very important. Here are some guidelines on how to have a “good fight”:

Agree on How to Disagree: Decide when, how, etc. Some couples may decide never to go to bed angry. Others may not allow problems to fester. Other couples may agree that if a problem is not discussed within 48 hours, then it’s history.

Don’t Go Overboard: Express your feelings without threatening or belittling your partner. No name calling, blaming, or dragging the kids into the argument. Everybody loses with these destructive tactics.

Focus on the Fight at Hand: Do not bring up past disagreements. Talk about the immediate issue. Do not use phrases like, “You always…” or “You never…”

Take a Time Out: If you are too heated to discuss things, don’t! Take a break and cool down. Move hot topics behind closed doors.

It’s ok for kids to see fights, as long as they see the resolution. Let the kids know you have reached a compromise, have said you’re sorry, reached a solution or peacefully agreed to disagree.

Remember that nothing benefits kids more than seeing their parents as humans with faults but with the ability to make corrections.

The Mars & Venus Counseling Center is here when you need us.  We are located in Teaneck, Oradell, and Ramsey, NJ.

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Explaining Death to Children – Bergen County

Morrisa Drobnick, LCSW, staff writer and advice columnist of “KIDS Magazine” answers questions about children and grief and bereavement.

Preschool children cannot understand that death is permanent and non-reversible; therefore, they do not see death the way teens and adults do. When someone they know dies, young children do not always express grief through tears, so we can miss the signs that they are grieving. The way we handle the death of a loved one teaches our children a lot about life.

Morrisa asks her readers how they have explained death to their children.

Don’t say the deceased is “sleeping” – this makes the children afraid to go to sleep at night. Don’t say that sickness caused death. Children may remember this and associate all sickness with death. Allow the children to, at least, attend the funeral home. If they don’t get to say goodbye, they may always feel that the deceased person left them. Above all, be simple but honest in answering the questions. Allow them to grieve, and let them know that you have feelings of sadness and loneliness, too.
– Sara Clutter, Washington PA

My three-year-old daughter attended the funeral and pre-funeral functions when her great-grandmother died. We answered all her questions in terms she could understand and without fear. I feel her participation was the key.
– Linda Von Fumetti, Des Moines, IA

Flowers were sent to me after the death of my sister. Each day I had my 2 ½ year old daughter help me pick the wilted flowers from the arrangement. I explained to her how all living things eventually die. The wilted flowers were dead, so they were taken away. We could still look at and enjoy the living flowers. I waited until she asked me about her aunt then reminded her about the flowers. We couldn’t see or smell the flowers anymore, nor could we hug or play with Auntie, but we could always remember how much we loved her.
– Laurel Merrifield, Franklin, NH

I explained to my four-year old daughter that life was similar to a book: It must have a beginning and an ending even when we wish it could continue.
– Vickie Trent-Wilson, Cedar Falls, IA

The staff at the Mars & Venus Counseling Center is here to help when you need us.  Please call.

 

 

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Ramsey Beating the Post-Vacation Blues

Beating the Post-Vacation Blues

by Morrisa Drobnick, LCSW, staff writer and advice columnist of “KIDS Magazine”

So long, Summertime. Good-bye swim clubs, beaches, lakes, and camps! Farewell to fun.

Parents and kids alike have a tough time re-adjusting to the real-life demands of school and work. The problems of re-entry take on many forms, depending on the length of the vacation, the ages of the kids, and whether or not both parents work outside the home.

Some people resist the change of pace. People have to deal with having their time tightly structured once more. When vacation ends, kids have to be more disciplined and that creates certain tensions in the family. Making a post-vacation transition is particularly hard for those people who normally find it difficult to change from one mental state to another. They are the kind of people for whom disorganization is quite distressing.

The first part to adjustments is recognizing that there is a problem. You need to anticipate that you and your children might experience these feelings and be on your guard. Accept the fact that this is going to be a somewhat chaotic period of your life. Things will not be under control. The kids are going to be crabby. There will be much complaining. It is easier if it is predictable because it feels less out of control.

If you are the kind of person who does have trouble with transitions, do not come back from vacation on Sunday and go to work Monday. Give yourself time to adjust gradually instead of whizzing through all of your lists at top speed. Children need extra time, not to mention extra attention.

Daily rituals can help us feel calm. The nighttime bath, story-time, a little TV can develop the sense of order and security. Start order in your children’s lives a week or so before school begins. Remember that gradual change may be less stressful for kids.

Attitudes are contagious. I believe in the power of positive thinking. If you think it’s terrific to be going back to work, the kids will like going back to school. (Well, maybe not!) The point is to accentuate the positive. Put more play in your daily life. Do things you really enjoy. Let your kids do things they really enjoy. Do not save all your fun for vacation is the end of having fun. Plan a fun family event for during the first few weeks of September to help prolong the relaxed Summertime spirit.